Random Thoughts

Being the subject of constant scrutiny mixed with a bit of ridicule is not easy. This manifests itself in anger followed by denial followed by acceptance finally followed by discount. This painful process is amplified further if your decision is condemned but YOU know it’s the best for you.

While there’s no denying that this kind of scrutiny is an excellent growth proposition for the character, it also indefinitely limits the comprehensive decision-making abilities of the person. Developing a sense of insecurity as a result is - I would dare to extrapolate - very common. It also tricks you into thinking that life is very complicated and the only way to simplify it is to let go of all conceptions – good and bad.

Restricting the psyche of a person is by far the worst you can hurt him. What’s more appalling is people never realize the extent of this damage they have unknowingly inflicted. One challenge lies in getting them to realize this. For most victims, overcoming this challenge is a “work in progress” for almost their entire lives. There is really no fool proof method to go about this because though simple as it sounds, it is not as easy, especially because you are not dealing with enemies but with people you love. You have to deal with complex egos built up over long periods of time and such constructs that you may absolutely disapprove of but have to face nevertheless. The other challenge lies in bringing about a positive change in those people. Now what makes this challenge a grueling one is that though everyone knows that change is the only constant in life, they still prefer to resist it. So, not only is it your responsibility to make them vulnerable to this change, but you also have to cajole them to truly accept the change.

But that’s not all. Now comes the most difficult part - Absolution. When you feel that a person close to your heart has wronged you, let you down or has gone against your decisions, the most common reaction is anger and you draw yourself away from that person. This seems logical and normal, and the thought process stops here. Only on cogitating further can one stumble upon the realization that the person had the right to hurt you - a right needed to make the bond stronger. What better test could there ever be for the bond of love than the infliction of a state of facing your worst fears for your loved ones? And what better way to trump this test than to forgive the person from the bottom of your heart? 

Our bravest and best lessons are not learnt through success but through misadventures. And it is immensely pleasurable and easy to sail through these misadventures when you know that your loved ones are there for you, no matter what.